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How to Stop Relationship Abuse

  • In order to stop relationship abuse, you have to be firm and committed to what changes you want to see. If you waver, you lose the asset of believability, and you lose confidence in yourself.
  • Be optimistic. Instead of seeing the relationship as a dead end, you can view yourself and your partner as good people who have simply not learned how to behave in a healthy way. As you are working together to resolve the relationship abuse, progress will be faster if you both have confidence that resolution is possible. If you cannot do it by yourselves, you may need a professional, either alone or with both of you present. Remember that blame is optional – you have the choice to pursue a happy, vibrant relationship without keeping the blame and punishment machine going.
  • Don’t be afraid to confront the other scenario: that sometimes, no matter how optimistic you began, your partner’s heart may not be in it. An unwillingness to change, or an escalation to physical violence as well as emotional abuse, is a sign that it is time for you to take your leave. If you feel you are in danger, it is important to go somewhere you will not be followed, and seek professional protection.
  • It is important that if you do choose to leave, you have somewhere to go. Build your support system in advance, so that you are not lost and alone, going from one bad situation to the other. And if you don’t have to leave, well, now you have friends to fall back on when you need advice.
  • It is also important that, for your emotional sake, you do all you can to severe the relationship on proper terms, so that you don’t leave feeling guilty or blaming yourself for ruining an emotional  relationship that could have been saved.
  • There is never any shame in leaving and asserting your right to stop an emotionally abusive relationship. Unless you are a child under parental care, you are not bound by law or force to stay. However, it is important that whether you leave or not, your immediate family knows of the situation. This is especially important for children, seniors, or others who own limited self-reliance.
  • Although it is hard, you must recognize and own up to your own faults as well. Learn what you may have done (not necessarily what your partner says you did) to contribute to the abuse. For example, if you know that you accept abuse as something normal and expected, address this issue so that you do not come across it in future relationships.

Nora Femenia, Ph.D is passionate about supporting women’s recovery from emotional abuse once and for all. Nora has created a powerful set of tools for helping women break out of the mind-set that keeps them in a toxic relationship by first discovering unconscious beliefs and family blueprints.

To know more about her latest book “Recovering From Emotionally Abusive Relationships” go to: http://www.healingemotionalabuse.com

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Overcome Psychological Effects of Emotional Abuse and Heal

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Probably the worst kind of abuse is emotional abuse. It is a form of relationship abuse that most of us do not have an idea that it existed.  Truthfully, even the victims of this psychological abuse do not realize that they are being abused.  Basically, emotional abuse comprises of swearing, using foul language, saying demeaning words, lying, accusing, criticizing and dominating.  It aims to wound you emotionally and not physically.  The effects of abuse on women is they tend to behave more and more aloof, experience low self-esteem, lose confidence in herself and become prone to depression and anxiety. In turn, most victims carry this burden throughout their life. Getting over and healing from abuse is possible.  You are the only one who has the power and total control on your body, mind and soul.

 

First and foremost, the healing from psychological abuse can only begin once you accept that you are already a victim in an abusive relationship. You cannot heal if you are at the state of denial.  Acceptance is the key to move on and start your life all over again.  If you see that your husband abusive behavior is acceptable, then you are not ready to let go and you cannot heal.  Once you accept that you are a victim, you can easily see his faults and eventually you can build up the courage to defend yourself, overcoming abuse in this way.

 

As a victim, you usually feel guilty.  Due to your husband manipulation, he convinced you that you are always at the wrong side of the fence though you are not.  As a result, you become too prone to stress, anxiety and depression. The worse thing could happen is you may develop panic attack.To add with this, your husband can manipulate you by constantly giving false hope that he will change. Learn to place a boundary and what is enough is enough.

 

Healing from the effects of emotional abuse means you need to build a new relationship again not with another person but with yourself.  Create harmony in you by loving and trusting yourself again.  Bear in mind that the last person you can count on when all things fail is yourself.  Be confident and realize your true worth.  You are a woman of substance and you are well loved. After all you have your friends and family that love you and support you.

 

You know that you are healed from emotional psychological abuse if you are able to forget about the past and it already has no control over your life.  The past cannot be changed so in order for you to cope up you need to accept that bad things happen in your life.  This might sound cruel but the effects of abuse were part of your reality… You are also healed if you know you are ready to meet and interact with new people again.  However sometimes, it will be difficult for you to trust another man.  This is relatively normal.  Use your instinct if the person is trustworthy or not.  The best advice is love yourself.  There is no man on this planet that is perfect.  So don’t be too hard on yourself and accept who you are.


Healing from abuse is an option we have. Overcoming emotional abuse is what make survivors.  I believe in the potential of survivors of abuse because our survival is an expression of limitless potential.