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Your Low Self Confidence is a Signal of Emotional Damage

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Are you presenting a “nice person” image of yourself
only to avoid all confrontations and
yet somehow still feeling unhappy or left out?

Is emotional damage now hidden in your present life? As a child you always wanted to be accepted, and you learned some tricks that gave results for a while. Creating a strong image of a Nice Person helped you to feel more accepted by your parents, siblings, and friends. This nice person always molded to fit the group, accepting the ruling of others without asking for the chance to include your own needs into their agenda. Doing that, your own needs became ignored by others and second priority to yourself, sometimes having to be suppressed completely.

This may be what others expected from you, providing a sense of ease, but you paid a very high price in emotional damage.  After many years of doing the “nice person act” you find your energy is sapped, that you feel empty, devoid of all motivation and sense of purpose.

It is at this moment that you realize the need to choose between pleasing others and losing yourself, or fulfilling your own needs and claiming what you really are, what you really want … and repair the emotional damage.
But fulfillment of your needs is only possible if you learn how to assert yourself effectively and grow your own identity: Self-assertion that is too strong, or aggressive, will provoke powerful reactions that can be stressing or even damaging to your relationships, and being too passive or having a weak self-esteem will leave you very vulnerable to whatever others need or want, sending you back to the starting point.

HAVING BETTER SELF-ESTEEM:

If you gradually build self-esteem, you will :

  • Feel adequate, no matter the circumstances
  • Accept and celebrate your own merits and accomplishments
  • Always feel security and a sense of direction.
  • Stop emotional abuse and mistreatment from the start
  • Attract the happiness you dream of
  • Be able to confidently negotiate any difficult issue.
  • Communicate your views with ease, even in stressful situations
  • Establish your needs and boundaries

To your happiness!

 

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How Fulfilling Your Human Needs Helps Boost Your Self-Esteem


Women tend to be the nurturers in their relationships and families.  Being the nurturer frequently means putting her own needs on the back burner.  This is where problems with reduced self-esteem can begin.  Many times the people being nurtured take the nurturer for granted; if the nurturer doesn’t have enough confidence in her own activities, self-esteem can plummet.

How can self-esteem be boosted in this type of situation?

1.  Always do your best no matter what you do.  There is a certain satisfaction that comes from “a job well done.”
2.  You cannot force anyone appreciate you.    Make sure that you can derive satisfaction from much of what you do.  If you don’t value what you do, it’s likely that no one else will.
3. If you are not satisfied with much of what you do, actively think about ways to change those things.  Make sure you are not doing things that others could do for themselves.
4.  Shake things up periodically.  Humans need challenges; something to reach for.  Consider things you dream about doing, pick one and go for it.  Whether it’s taking a class about something you’ve wanted to learn, skydiving, or learning a new computer program.
5.  Connect with others.  Connect with friends, relatives, or people you meet in your “shake it up” activity.
6.  Speak positively to yourself and about yourself.  Sometimes this can be difficult.  You need not be self-aggrandizing, simply positive.  If you speak poorly to or about yourself, you won’t be setting others up to think positively about you.

7.  Contribution is a human need.  Doing for others instead of just yourself requires you to go beyond your own needs and focus on others.

Remember to help build your self-esteem, you must take care of your human needs which include focusing on your positives, growth, contributing to others, and understanding your own significance.

Learn more about increasing your self-esteem in Boosting Self-Esteem:  Be Your Own Heroine which can be found here

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Relationship Repair Month:This Week Is Self Esteem

The Relationship Repair Month, has just made available the second week training, dedicated to self esteem:

Have you ever asked yourself any of this questions:

  • Is There Something Wrong With Me, That I’m Denied Recognition?
  • What is the Value of What I Bring To This Relationship?
  • Why do I Always end on the losing end of a Relationship?

Although all of those questions are good valid ones, most of the time what you are really asking is “How Valuable Do I See My Self”

To zoom in all those questions this week we have created a sort survey, and  don’t forget to download the workbook,
Six Very Simple Things That Your Can Do Today to Start Re-Building Your Inner strength 

 

To access the Relationship repair Month, please visit:

http://nationalrelationshipsmonth.com/relationships-month/week-two-your-inner-compass/

Regards,
Neil

 

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The Emotionally Abusive Relationship is our Focus!

 

National Relationships Repair Month is Waiting For You, to help heal Emotionally Abusive Relationships!

Have you been wishing this holiday season to have a magic opening into a real where there is more love and connection for you?

We are now offering the National Relationships Repair Month project, where we want to share with our readers some keys to improve love and respect and appreciation in their intimate relationships..

So, you too are invited! .Come join us!

Please, log here to register: National Relationship Repair Month

and join us for a better life.

 

emotional abuse

What emotional abuse gains does the abusive person get?

I just don’t understand how my baby-father can make me feel like crap all the time & call me all these names, It really dint seem to get to me a lot but I just wish I can know why hes so mean to me. I just want to find a way to just fight back & make him regret everything he has done to me.

Perhaps he feel so macho, so powerful…I will raise my baby to hate him and his power.what emotional abuse