Have you been around some abuse victims episode recently? or is there in your memory some past abuse?
This is what happened yesterday: in a general store, getting things for my kitchen, all the decor was full with different kinds of red hearts…Of course! It’s Valentine’s Day!….
Suddenly I found myself grabbing one of the balloons…and my left hand felt curiously small, kind of tiny…it would not let the balloon go as I went through the cashier. She rang everything up and I found myself walking out with a gorgeous red balloon with the “I love you” message screaming across it.
My rational mind asking: what’s going on here? why did you buy this balloon? who is this balloon for?
And the answer was loud and clear: this balloon is for my inner child abused…Of course! she needs to hear from me, her adult self, that I cherish her!
As I never forgot her completely, the abused child she was, but went through periods in which I could only remember the painful parts of her life I wanted so much to forget, now I have a better picture. I can see all her creativity, her survival skills deploying under extreme duress, emotional child abuse and constant lack of appreciation. I can see her resourcefulness to find small joys in a bleak childhood, which translated into being a smart survivor now…she survived her child abusers with all her heart intact!
And this is a good opportunity to tell her, with all my love, that I recognize her, appreciate her tenacity and ability to resist oppression from her child abuser without denying the joys of life. She was a joyful survivor, never a bitter one. Always founding in a bit of sunshine, a flower, a smile, the energy to keep living, learning and dreaming a better future…Of course you are my Valentine!
To my inner child, the victim of emotional child abuse, but also of physical abuse, now I’m sending this loving Valentine; you deserve it more than anybody else. Wherever the alternative time you are in now, you are in my heart, always…thanks for surviving everything and bringing me here and now!
I really enjoyed reading your story it\’s a great way to show your inner self how much you love her and cherish her. We as abused women should always have that positive attitude like you described on this post, we need to make our inner self good and happy instead of always thinking about the past and being sad about what happened. Healing is not easy but with such enthusiasm like this its much easier to forget about our terrible past. healingabusedwomen.com is also a great website to prevent abuse and heal those who have been abused.